Weirdest International Transgender Story Ever

Bigfoot said:

The poll choices make no sense. But I voted Yes anyway. You know, the thing.

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TEOTWAWKI inc. said:

Read the question again and tell me 'yes' isn't the only correct answer.

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HEX said:

Genuine question.. how drunk were you when you posted this ?.. Yes, no, other, man, woman ? ..What ?
Hell, I should leave poll options to answer.. would be kinda funny.

Look, another thing, and this is for a lot of people, not just the OP, I would really just like some of you folks to sit back and pose yourself the question if maybe you are a bit obsessed about trans people, because it really looks that way from the outside. I'm not saying you're homophobic (though that's true in some cases certainly), or that you're into trans people (though it would be completely fine if you were), or anything like that..I'm merely suggesting that it seems like trans people take up a lot of your brain space. Either that, or maybe you think you're.. like joining the crowd or something (I'll get to that later). It's really not a good look, either for yourselves or for the community as a whole. Again, I'm asking only that you pose yourself the question. The answer is for you to decide.

To be clear, I'm not saying you should avoid posting about mass shootings or anything like that, but man..some of the shit that gets said in those threads. It's very clear most people have never met a trans person, and that's fine (please do not go approach random trans people), but the bad thing is that most people never do any actual research or even attempt to understand anything, but have a lot of unfounded opinions based on basically nothing. That's especially why it's a bad look (true of any topic really, but not every topic can cause harm).
I know some trans folks personally, and mostly in the last couple of years now call some friends. Generally all are pretty good people. Some of them actually treat people nicer and better than most, perhaps because they know what's it's like to be treated badly..I dunno exactly, but it varies by person, just like anybody else (I've met some that were kinda assholes too.. you know..like people sometimes are) Not a single one that I know though is, as far as I know, some crazy militant, or is part of some agenda, or gives a damn if you're a Christian or anything else. They mostly just want to live their lives, pursue happiness, and just get through the damn day like anybody else. I don't at all claim to understand everything either, or know what it's like being a marginalized person, but I understand a hell of a lot more than I did two years ago because I bothered to try, because trying to understand your fellow humans is to treat them like fellow humans (hopefully as well as you're able). Sure, there's going to be some bad eggs, that operate in bad faith, just like anybody else, but in this case it's an extreme minority of an already extreme minority, but to read this forum you"d think trans people were this single minded dangerous terrorist group..and that's really fuckin' silly (and ACTUALLY dangerous to trans people). Trans people are just people, layered and complex and full of thoughts and ideas like anybody else, not some weird strawman portrayal you might be imagining (or worse, have been programmed to imagine).

One last gripe. I have seen some genuinely good questions being asked on the topic. It's not common, but it does happen. In those moments, I get a bit frustrated, because the person asking them asks them here, where they get answers from either outright bigots, or often just people who also haven't bothered to look it up. The issue there is that this is the internet, and that information/answers is often readily available elsewhere if you bothered to try. It comes across in such a way that even when I know the answer, I don't want to tell you because I can't tell if you're asking in good faith, because you actually want to know, or if you're just being shitty. This can apply to a lot of other thngs too, especially in a world where most people don't read more than headlines these days, but in particular it happens a lot on this topic right now. I wouldnt mind giving resources or answers to someone I genuinely thought was engaging honestly with trying to understand a thing, any thing, regardless of what they believe before or after. Just.. if you make even a tiny effort to really understand where people are coming from, and not rely on what you get from shock news and shit, maybe we can all just treat each other a little bit better. The MAN wants people divided, and they want people to sign up on 'teams", with tribal mentality. Fuck that. Be the kindest human you're capable of being, and look to do the least harm. That means always learning and always trying to be a little better. That can be damn hard, believe me..I know better than many just how hard, but it's the way to escape the boxes they put you in, and to be a better human.

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HEX said:

Genuine question.. how drunk were you when you posted this ?.. Yes, no, other, man, woman ? ..What ?
Hell, I should leave poll options to answer.. would be kinda funny.

Look, another thing, and this is for a lot of people, not just the OP, I would really just like some of you folks to sit back and pose yourself the question if maybe you are a bit obsessed about trans people, because it really looks that way from the outside. I'm not saying you're homophobic (though that's true in some cases certainly), or that you're into trans people (though it would be completely fine if you were), or anything like that..I'm merely suggesting that it seems like trans people take up a lot of your brain space. Either that, or maybe you think you're.. like joining the crowd or something (I'll get to that later). It's really not a good look, either for yourselves or for the community as a whole. Again, I'm asking only that you pose yourself the question. The answer is for you to decide.

To be clear, I'm not saying you should avoid posting about mass shootings or anything like that, but man..some of the shit that gets said in those threads. It's very clear most people have never met a trans person, and that's fine (please do not go approach random trans people), but the bad thing is that most people never do any actual research or even attempt to understand anything, but have a lot of unfounded opinions based on basically nothing. That's especially why it's a bad look (true of any topic really, but not every topic can cause harm).
I know some trans folks personally, and mostly in the last couple of years now call some friends. Generally all are pretty good people. Some of them actually treat people nicer and better than most, perhaps because they know what's it's like to be treated badly..I dunno exactly, but it varies by person, just like anybody else (I've met some that were kinda assholes too.. you know..like people sometimes are) Not a single one that I know though is, as far as I know, some crazy militant, or is part of some agenda, or gives a damn if you're a Christian or anything else. They mostly just want to live their lives, pursue happiness, and just get through the damn day like anybody else. I don't at all claim to understand everything either, or know what it's like being a marginalized person, but I understand a hell of a lot more than I did two years ago because I bothered to try, because trying to understand your fellow humans is to treat them like fellow humans (hopefully as well as you're able). Sure, there's going to be some bad eggs, that operate in bad faith, just like anybody else, but in this case it's an extreme minority of an already extreme minority, but to read this forum you"d think trans people were this single minded dangerous terrorist group..and that's really fuckin' silly (and ACTUALLY dangerous to trans people). Trans people are just people, layered and complex and full of thoughts and ideas like anybody else, not some weird strawman portrayal you might be imagining (or worse, have been programmed to imagine).

One last gripe. I have seen some genuinely good questions being asked on the topic. It's not common, but it does happen. In those moments, I get a bit frustrated, because the person asking them asks them here, where they get answers from either outright bigots, or often just people who also haven't bothered to look it up. The issue there is that this is the internet, and that information/answers is often readily available elsewhere if you bothered to try. It comes across in such a way that even when I know the answer, I don't want to tell you because I can't tell if you're asking in good faith, because you actually want to know, or if you're just being shitty. This can apply to a lot of other thngs too, especially in a world where most people don't read more than headlines these days, but in particular it happens a lot on this topic right now. I wouldnt mind giving resources or answers to someone I genuinely thought was engaging honestly with trying to understand a thing, any thing, regardless of what they believe before or after. Just.. if you make even a tiny effort to really understand where people are coming from, and not rely on what you get from shock news and shit, maybe we can all just treat each other a little bit better. The MAN wants people divided, and they want people to sign up on 'teams", with tribal mentality. Fuck that. Be the kindest human you're capable of being, and look to do the least harm. That means always learning and always trying to be a little better. That can be damn hard, believe me..I know better than many just how hard, but it's the way to escape the boxes they put you in, and to be a better human.

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CaseHardened said:

You probably do know Homosexuals. The kind I know. Who only reveal that small part of their life after they become comfortable telling you.

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